To The Idols Of This World: Take A Hike!

Well, I went an entire month without Facebook.
If you know me personally, that's shocking.

But God recently revealed to this clueless girl that maybe Facebook was taking up just a wee too much of my time lately. Five minutes here or there sure adds up to a big chunk when you add it all up.

I began thinking, "Is Facebook somehow becoming *gasp* an idol in my life? Am I honestly spending more time on Facebook daily than I am connecting with the Lord? Could it be? No way..."

Yeah way.

So begrudginly obedient me logged off Facebook and gave it a rest for the month (minus a few posts here and there on my blog page). And despite what you might think, it's not the end of the world being off Facebook. In fact, if a Facebook fast seems like a totally crazy idea to you...you might want to consider one yourself! Just sayin.'

I have absolutely no idea what is going on in the lives of 95% of the people I am friends with on Facebook. Which is a bummer. But I didn't know what was going on with most of them before my Facebook vacation. If you haven't noticed, Facebook isn't really designed to create real, authentic community. No social networking site is. Facebook is just a time sucker.  A super fun time sucker this social girl loves, by the way. But a time sucker nonetheless!

I recently took an informal survey of some close girlfriends, and here's what I discovered. We are all too darn busy. And we're all miserable as a result. And Facebook isn't helping a lot of us socially inclined chicks stay on task.  So what are we going to do about it?

Even though most of us admit we don't have enough time in the day to get in a good bible study, or take some quiet time for ourselves, we spend an average of 1-2 hours watching TV and another 1-2 hours hanging out on Facebook (add up all the times you 'check in' for 5 minutes throughout the day....eeeekkkk!) or doing some other totally senseless, unproductive activity. It's a shame. And just a wee bit embarrassing at how much worldly things have taken a major priority in my life our lives. And don't get me started on the size of our daily to-do lists!

I have a nice long post (or rant, if you will) about our priorities, or lack thereof, coming at some point, with some shocking statistics to back it up. But for now...stew on these thoughts.
  1. What do you spend too much time on each day?  Be honest...is it Facebook? TV? Reading blogs? (don't stop reading mine, just everyone elses...hahaha) Surfing the internet? Writing your own blog? Shopping? Clipping coupons? Carting your kids around to every activity known to mankind? Working out? Counting calories? Baking? Laundry? People need to get fed, clothes need to be clean, savings are a must, but at some point these things can go from necessity to obsession/compulsion. That's when we need an intervention.
  2. When is the last time you had a good, deep, honest, heart to heart, face to face conversation with your spouse, a family member or friend? Facebook messaging and texting don't count.
  3. When is the last time you took a solid half hour or two or three each week just for yourself to relax and destress? (And don't tell me because you have kids that isn't possible, I know alot of mamas who do this.)
  4. When is the last time you sent a nice handwritten note (remember those?) out to people you love? I did that recently with some very special ladies in my life that I haven't had the chance to see much this summer. Just because we're busy, doesn't mean we can't let people know how special they are to us.
  5. When is the last time you spent some serious quality time with the Lord, whether reading His word, journaling, listening for that still small voice, having prayer time or going for a nice long walk and talking to Him?
  6. Add up how much time you spend daily on things like juicing, counting calories, working out, making whole foods, shopping, baking, couponing, etc. Now add up how much time you spend daily drawing closer to God and spending quality time with your spouse and kiddos?
Are things out of whack at all? If not, it must be nice to be perfect! *jealous*
If YOU are being honest, your priorities aren't all they're cracked up to be. Are they? Don't worry, mine aren't either. We're human after all. And we fail sometimes. Sometimes we fail big! Other times, we don't even realize we are failing, were so wrapped up in our own little world/drama! Plus, life gets messy, we get overwhelmed. Important people and things take priority. But NOTHING should ever take priority over our relationship with King Jesus. But whether we want to admit it or not, many things (i.e. distractions or minor obsessions) and people have become idols in our lives.

So what are you we gonna do about it?

This week, I'm going to spend some more quality time taking stock of my priorities. I am going to attack (or expose) those idols. I also vow to continue being intentional in my desire to spend more quality time with family, friends and, most importantly, our Savior. This proves to be difficult, as it seems everyone is just too busy to fellowship, have coffee or hang out these days. *sigh* But praise the Lord that our Heavenly Father always has time for us!

So how about it...you up for rearranging your priorities this week? Be honest with yourself and admit where your priorities might be out of whack. I know it will be difficult to admit our failings and honestly evaluate where we place too much stock in the things of this world, but the Lord is kind and merciful! Don't forget that!

After you have identified where life has become a bit too indulgent, spend some time getting things back in balance. Find someone close that can hold you accountable, if needed.

I You WE can do it! Will you join me?

"Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will." Romans 12:2

12 comments:

  1. Good for you! It's a slippery slope sometimes, isn't it? You give good pointers and great advice for watching out for idols. Thanks for linking up to Playdates with God this week. I've enjoyed visiting with you this morning :)

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    1. Thanks Laura, I enjoyed your playdate this week. :)

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  2. Great subject, Nicki! I was thinking about this just yesterday since I've been reading through 1st and 2nd Kings lately and seeing how easy it was for them to get caught up in idols. I asked myself what was an idol in my life. My answer wasn't FB, but I did have an answer and as of yesterday (don't laugh), I haven't done that particular thing. Yay! Each day will have to be a choice to focus on Christ and His sufficiency rather than the things that make me feel good momentarily. Thanks so much for this insightful and challenging post, my friend!

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    1. I think it's WONDERFUL that God was able to reveal there was something taking away precious time with Him. I think there are so many distractions in our world, from social media to the extracurriculars of parenting, to socialization with friends, to the basics like housework and just breathing...so many of these life things overtake the critical time we need to be in relationship with our Heavenly Father. And so many of these things we can do as an act of worship to the Lord too. I think it's just a matter of finding balance and some perspective. Praying you have strength to keep up with what God is calling you to strip away from this season of your life. :)

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  3. Went to a Women's Retreat this weekend and heard that exact same thing. Something I noted was "If Satan can't make you bad he'll make you busy."
    Think God is trying to speak to me? Oh yeah. What sucks your time away from God? There is definitely some re-evaluating/time-managment I'm doing. Thanks for the encouragement.

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    1. Don't you love how God speaks to us at different seasons of our life through small group discussions, retreats, blog posts, etc and calls us to examine our priorities and draw nearer to Him? LOVE that you are in the same place right now. We all need to be more dependent on King Jesus. I think as we do this, our marriages and other relationships will benefit tremendously too. Thanks for leaving a note friend! Love ya!

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  4. Love this. You are spot on. This is something that creeps up in my life all too often and I try hard to keep a tight grip on reality and the cross... thanks. Cass @ www.theunpluggedfamily.com

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    1. Yeah it's so easy to get distracted in this modern world. Which is why I like to unplug regularly and take stock of our family's choices. Blessings!

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  5. Interesting, isn't it, how we work so hard to stay connected through this amazing internet, and yet are really not so very connected after all? You gave us some food for thought - thanks for the wake up call!

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    1. I need the wakeup call myself! :) I have spent time this week writing down the places in my life that are biblically out of balance. Scary when you truly sit before the Lord and let Him reveal to you places that need to change.

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  6. Preeeeach! I am so guilty of this. Every time that little red dot comes up on my phone telling me I have a new FB notification, I dive for it. It drives my husband nuts. I've been trying to disconnect a little bit but it's hard. You're right, it does suck away your time. :( Great thoughts.

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    1. Thanks...yeah, I am often ruled by that little red dot too...except mine is blue! :) I have disabled all notifications on my phone now, as it was going off left and right. Driving me and the hubby mad. Now, I check into "the world" (ie facebook, blog, email) on MY time, not everyone else's. And I feel ALOT more sane, let me tell you! Now if only I could ditch the frumps and get to the pumps, I'd be set. haha

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