Life Lessons From A Crazy Messed Up Girl

Hi friend, I missed you! Thought I'd catch you up on what's been shakin' in my little neck of the woods these past few months. As you may know, 2013 was an awful year health-wise for me. I started out the year with a month of full blown laryngitis. And it sort of spiraled from there. This Fall I had surgery to remove my thyroid. And they found CANCER. Can you believe it? After several biopsies where I thought there might be cancer...only for them to say nope, you're all good....there actually was cancer. That kind of thing can really screw with your mind if you go there. And well, yes, this girl went there.

I'm still processing everything. It's only been a few months since the surgery, but I'm feeling so much better. Still healing, that will take time...but overall, I'm peachy, thank you very much. And I'm alive. Ready to serve Him for another year.

OK...can I just stop for a second and emphasize...I had cancer. CANCER!!!! ....GOD healed me from cancer!!! *Holy crap batman!* HOW AWESOME IS THAT? I can't put into words the amazing things God taught me this year...but  now that I caught you up on where I've been...can I just say that 2013 was one of the best years ever for me? Here's what I learned...



LIFE LESSONS FROM A CRAZY MESSED UP GIRL
  1. LISTEN MORE. TALK LESS. I'm actually at the point where I'm just sick and tired of being sick and tired. Ever been there? But if you take away health issues, the year was AWESOME! Losing my voice allowed me to hear more of my husband's thoughts on life. He has such a lovely voice, by the way. He really should be on the radio too. But I'm the talker in our marriage. Talk talk talk talk talk. How has this man put up with me all these years? But God taught me a great lesson during all of this: LISTEN MORE. TALK LESS. And that's overflowed to all areas of my life and marriage. It's awesome.
  2. BE STILL. If you listen more and talk less, by the way, God will show up more in your life too. I mean, who wants a one-sided relationship with our Savior? Or anyone else for that matter? If all we do is talk His ear off (which He loves of course), how will we ever be quiet enough to learn what He has to say on the matter?  Sometimes the most excellent prayer time is when you just sit and be still.
  3. TRUST MORE. I grew up in a pretty messed up family. We kept all our issues to ourselves, as heaven forbid anyone knew mom had a drinking problem, dad had a hitting problem, and life in general was messed up in our upper middle class suburban castle. So I have sort of taken that into my adult life. Until this year. It's OK, in fact, it's really helpful and super awesome, to open up and let people know what's really going on in that noggin' of yours. And your life. TRUST people if you haven't learned to do this yet. Trust God. Black helicopters aren't out to get you. Trusting more can be a lifesaver spiritually.
  4. ASK FOR HELP. I have always been too independent. I grew up with parents too busy for me. I was a mom to my baby sister. I never had anyone to help me. So I learned to rely on myself. An awful thing, by the way, esp when you grow up and get married!  But I'm a redeemed control freak. If you can humble yourself enough to admit you can't do it all by your lonesome, there is great joy in being served by others. And it makes you want to pay them back. A wonderful cycle of giving, I say. Go ahead...ask someone for help!
  5. ASK FOR PRAYER. I always ask people "how can I pray for you?" But when they ask back, I say "it's all good" or just give a surface issue like "more sleep." But when you have big life-altering decisions to make, it forces you to admit you can't figure it out all by yourself and drives you straight into the hands of your loving Heavenly Father. We had no idea, should we do surgery, radiation, let things stay as they are? There were many choices presented before us and we just wanted to ensure that we choose the one God desired for us and our future family. To do that, we had to ask elders and friends to pray pray pray that we could make the right decision. And lo and behold, we did. Cancer free baby!
  6. NEVER BE TOO BUSY. I have some of the neatest friends. They rallied around me with prayer, support, meal offers, home visits, you name it during this year. The thing that was the most precious to me through all of this was just feeling loved. By my family and friends, both new and old. NEVER be too busy to spend time with friends and loved ones. There is nothing more important in this world than serving God and loving others. Nothing I tell you, nothing. Make time for the people that matter most to you. Cherish them. Have coffee dates, phone chats, daily texts, board game parties. Whatever works for you. Just don't let them get lost in the wayside of life's craziness.
  7. READ YOUR BIBLE. If I had to guess, there are alot of Christians out there who say this year will be the year they spend more time in the Word. Stop putting it off! GET IN THE WORD. NOW! Even if it's just 10 minutes a day. Find a time and a place and a way for it to work for you and stop procrastinating. Don't do it because you feel you have to. Cuz you don't. There's nothing written in the Word that says you have to be in the Word. Do it because you WANT TO! This may be the #1 thing I learned this year. I mean, how else are you ever going to know how to live your life the way God intended and make good decisions during the time we have on this earth? How will you keep God's goodness and greatness in perspective when you are going through difficult times? How else will you understand the plans He has for you? Do it...open it NOW. RIGHT NOW. Make your bible your best friend (still a work in progress for me.)
I could go on and on with more things I learned this year...but I won't. Cuz if I do it all today, what will I write about tomorrow or the next day? I'm going to get better with the writing thing this year too, but my motto for this year is "slow and steady wins the race!" More on that later.

Peace out, friend. Have a happy day!

"Oh happy day, happy day, when Jesus washed my sin away." 

{YOUR TURN}
What big life lessons did God teach you recently? Please share!

21 comments:

  1. So glad you are now cancer free! You've given some great advice. Troubled times always teach me a lot also. I think learning to be content is what I've learned recently.

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    1. Yes! Being content right where God has you can be one of the greatest challenges and rewards this life has to offer! So glad you have learned such a valuable lesson that you can share with others. Blessings :)

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  2. This was definitely a joy-filled post with lots of good advice. Sitting quietly before the Lord has always been hard for me--even in my old age. But listening instead of talking increases the depth of relationships! Glad you learned all of this at a young age.
    Blessings,
    Janis

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    1. Yeah sitting anywhere quietly is a huge task for me! I am a talking maniac. :) Which is great if that's your job. But your life is not your job... Talk less, listen more, I say! Seems to be working. And God is speaking to me thru scripture like crazy the less I try to "theologize" and the more I try to just listen. Bless you for your kind comment.

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  3. Anonymous12:48 PM

    What a great post.....you should write a book.......I am glad to hear you are cancer free....I have a sister going thru cancer right now.....cancer is a terrible thing, but she is taking it very well.....so include her in your prayers too.....she needs all she can get....just signed up for your blog and am looking forward to one day reading your book.....you have a story that needs to be told.....and good luck with your new book :)
    (kentuckylady 717) having problem selecting profile....so had to use this one......but did leave my name :) why can't we just hit publish ? I don't mind leaving my name, but I do not want to go thru Google.....had a problem before with some blogs..... thanks.....

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    1. How sweet of you to leave such a nice comment. I don't know about a book, I think I'll just work on more blogging for now. :) Would you be so kind as to email me so I can understand what issues you were having commenting? It's info @ nickischroeder.com. Thanks!

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    2. Oh...and I did say a prayer for your sister. Going thru any health issue is a struggle, but when there's such a level of uncertainty clinging to the issue, it just becomes so overwhelming. Praying for good health and healing and the ability to cling tightly to God's word during all of this. Blessings!

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  4. Wow, God Is Good. Thank you so much for helping to make the Thursday Favorite Things blog hop so much fun Hugs!

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    1. Thanks for stopping by to say hi. God is indeed good! All the time.

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  5. I love your list...I think I will print it out and put it in front of my face every day...all Scriptural! Thanks for participating in the blog hop...Blessings!

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    1. Awwww, thanks for your sweet words Pam. God really taught me a lot last year, but He teaches us all, doesn't He? Whether or not we are willing pupils. ;) Blessings to you!

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  6. Wow, so good to see how faithful He is, but I am sooo sorry you had to go through all of that! :( I actually wrote a post on the lesson I learned last year, but to sum up - LET GO & TRUST!

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    1. That sounds like a wonderful life lesson. I enjoyed your post. :) I have learned some wonderful things that have radically changed the way I view the world, God, people, etc. I wouldn't change it for anything. Praise God, our mighty redeemer! Blessings!

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  7. Nikki_I can't wait to read more of your blog! I found you through the CMB Friday link up. What energy and enthusiasm your writing gives off! God is so faithful and I can tell you really had to lean in during 2013. Laryngitis, thyroid, cancer. Wowsa! That's enough to put a girl down for the count. Sounds like you were down and now you're up and ready to go again! To God Be The Glory! I loved the last item on your things learned list! The Word is the life line to living a victorious Christ centered life. I have battled and battled with this truth. Always knowing, but not always committing to keep my nose in the book when the days were the hardest. 2013 taught me that staying in the scriptures is the a matter of my spiritual life or death. Thanks for writing! Jacqui

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    1. Awww thanks for the kind words! The word is our lifeline indeed. I put it at the bottom of my list so it was the last one people read. :) I love your desire to stay in Gods word. I struggle with that too and it's so good to know we aren't alone in that battle. Blessings to you!

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  8. Hey! I'm here from the faith filled fridays too! Fun to read your post and see your lessons. Do you have a word for the year? That's where I've been camping out recently - mine is Abide. God's been teaching me what it means to abide in Him. Only three weeks in though so I still have a lot to learn! :)

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    1. So awesome that God is teaching you so much already this year. That's a good word! I don't have a word. In fact I wrote an article about why did not join the one word movement. Exciting to see what you will learn!

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  9. I loved this post. Praise God for being cancer free!! That is awesome. You are so joyful in all that you write about. Thanks for this post and for linking up with me!

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    1. Thanks for your kind words Sarah! I just realized this morning that I am officially 4 months cancer free! Praise The Lord!!!! God is so good!

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  10. Nicki, I loved visiting your blog. There are so many things I love about this post that I must create a list for you:
    1. I have a crazy life, and so do you. I am not alone in the crazies! Yes!
    2. You had health issues in 2013, and I had them in 2012. I relate to your story.
    3. You had your thyroid removed, and I have a close friend who just had that same surgery and is in the recovery stage.
    4. You are writing about lessons you've learned, and HELLO, that is the whole point of my blog -- sharing lessons I've learned about faith through living life day to day.

    Thanks for linking up at Thought-Provoking Thursday last week! :)

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    1. Well I must tell you that I love your list! And I am so happy to hear your friend is currently in recovery. It's a tough road, so happy to hear she has a joyful friend to lift her up! And isn't it so nice to know we aren't alone in the crazies?

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