The Hissy Fit From West Virginia

Do you ever have those moments, days, ok, entire weeks, where you just feel so exhausted and completely overwhelmed? Ever get super worked up about an issue that, after a little post-meltdown reflection, seems totally insignificant? Been there? Me too!

embrace imperfection

I've been having one of those weeks, a set of weeks actually, where the silliest little things set me off. Like earlier today, I forgot to take the clean dishes out of the dishwasher and threw a dirty spoon into the basket. I flipped. Can you believe it? I mean, hello, reach into the bin, remove offending flatware. Drama over. Right?

Sigh. That would be too simple.

Instead, I threw a hissy fit. Plain and simple. A big old, crazy-lady hissy fit that would put a teething two-year-old to shame. To shame dear friends. To shame.

Thankfully, my hubby was working, so he was spared my Oscar-worthy performance (where's a hidden video camera when you need it?)

It wasn't my brightest moment. So why share it with you?

Because after said hissy fit, I began comparing myself to a woman I recently met from West Virginia. She's perfect. Perfect hair. Perfect makeup. Perfect kids. Perfect house. Perfect life. The woman from West Virginia would never throw a hissy fit. She doesn't do drama. Or insecurity. She's too busy being perfect!

I eventually realized how silly it was to compare myself to her. I mean, she's living in a perfection bubble, while I'm in my kitchen just keeping it real. 

"For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." Romans 3:23

Embrace imperfection

We're sinners. And sinners need a Savior! That's why Jesus came. When we place our trust in the one true King, He forgives our imperfections, frees us from our shortcomings and overlooks our hissy fits. 

I feel very blessed today. I am friends with some really beautiful, flawed ladies. They are real. I can go to them when I have my dishwasher breakdowns and be reminded that God loves me. I am not judged by my perfection but am loved for my imperfections. They extend grace. Offer prayer support. And we are real with each other. Plus, they aren't afraid to tell it like it is.

Flawed friends. Good old-fashioned hissy fits. Imperfect living. Dirty dishes. A loving husband. Open Bible. And Jesus. If you ask me, that's way better than living in a perfection bubble.

Please don't get stuck living life like the woman from West Virginia, trapped in her lonely perfection bubble.

Embrace imperfection. Be real with the people that matter most.

Be real with yourself. Be real with God. Offer grace. Extend forgiveness. 

And finally, to the woman from West Virginia, grant yourself a little grace today. And please schedule time for a good old-fashioned hissy fit. You deserve it!

Have a week filled with beautiful, flawed moments!

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  1. Anonymous9:07 AM

    Nice post Nicki. Should make us all think a little when things don't go the way we believe they should. Grace. Ahhh......

    1. Grace indeed! To steal a phrase from one of my fave hymns:
      "Grace, grace, God’s grace,
      Grace that will pardon and cleanse within;
      Grace, grace, God’s grace,
      Grace that is greater than all our sin!"

  2. Anonymous8:24 AM

    The perfect words for what I needed today. This past couple months I've been trying to be that woman from West Virginia but acting more like you with the temper tantrum. Thank you for bringing back to who I am in Christ.

    1. I feel so blessed that I was able to encourage you today! It is really so hard to be real, isn't it? Esp. when every other female on the planet seems to have it all figured out? :) My motto "live simply, love abundantly and be the special person God's created you to be" is really what I try to abide by...and it's so difficult in a world filled with peer pressure and perfectionism. Have a very real, very blessed week!

  3. It happens to us all even if we don't like to admit it, thank God we have His support and help to get over them

  4. I don't like being around two types of people, Nicki: 1) Those that think they must be perfect 2) Those that throw hissy fits behind closed doors and then pretend that they would never do such a thing!

    Then there's the third group, like you, Nicki, that recognizes and admits you're not perfect and some days are hissy fit days! I LOVE that group! So that means, I love you too! Hugs to you for this authentic and wise post, my friend!

    1. Awwwww, so glad my openness deems me worthy as a friend. I tell ya, some people are super duper uncomfortable with being real, and it's been fun to see some of the reactions to the things we write, don't ya think? Thanks for blessing me with kindness today. And I pray you are feeling better and hanging in there lady! xoxo Nicki

  5. I'm in West Virginia and I just blogged about something very similar. BEing real and being transparent are so important. Especially with our friends. And , I am pretty sure your friend, the perfect one, really is a bit normal like us. :) Great post !

    1. Haha, yeah she's prolly normal too, but how freeing when you can just let go and admit you aren't perfect? :) happy to hear you are keeping it real in good ol' West Virginia!

  6. I am so glad that God found me and I found HIM at age 25!

  7. God Bless Thank you for sharing at the Thursday Favorite Things Blog Hop . Big Hugs

  8. It is amazing, after we reflect on our tantrums, how silly they really are. And the older we get, the less attractive they are. Thanks for a good reminder today.

  9. Don't we all! So thankful for a Savior who loves me in my mess and moves me out of it.

  10. Amen to that sweet sister! Now if only we could stop making messes ;)

  11. Oh, friend. This woman from West Virginia is sooo far from perfect :). Fresh from the Jumping Tandem Retreat, I'm filled with one theme that seemed to permeate: maybe it's the broken places that are the real gift. Grace is such a beautiful thing. And I think you are beautiful. Much love.

  12. Oh, those hissy fits. But real is so much better than perfect--hissy fits and all. I was encouraged by my visit here in the middle of real!

  13. I think I'm your "hissy sissy." Um, sorry for the corny rhyme, but I can totally relate to you, Nicki! In fact, I talk about venting on my hubby in my latest sloppy joe video. I suppose we were on the same page, which is great in my opinion--to be on any page with you! Hugs!


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