Loving In The Middle of The Daily Mess

Last week millions of people rushed to buy flowers, stuffed animals, candy, cards and diamonds to remind their spouse of  their undying devotion.

I wonder how many of those millions are still feeling the love this week?

love your valentine all year long!

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

How many of us live out these biblical truths in our marriage? They are hard to put into practice, but only through the grace of God can we learn to love like Jesus loved, even in marriage.

Only through the grace of God can we learn to love like Jesus loved, even in marriage. 

  • Love is patient, with our spouses and the curve balls life throws at us. 
  • Love is kind, even when our spouses are cranky. 
  • Love is humble, even when we are the one that is "right" in an argument. 
  • Love is filled with honesty and Godly truth. 
  • Love is endearing, even when our spouses are not. 
  • Love endures all things, even the biggest stresses that life can throw at us. 
  • Love is filled with a hope that only comes from knowing Jesus Christ.

Let's face it, this love stuff is tough work. We are busy. We have responsibilities. Little and big people to care for. To do lists a mile long. Laundry and lots of it. And sometimes romance is the first thing to fly out the proverbial window in our marriage.

But in the middle of all the daily craziness, don't you want to feel loved by the one person on this earth that you vowed to go through life with? I sure do.

How do you show love to your spouse in the daily chaos of life?

My hubby's love language is home cooked meals so I have learned to love the act of cooking because it makes him happy. I tuck little love notes inside his lunch box when I remember. I often mow the lawn on a hot summer day while he's at work, or take out the trash before he gets home. Sometimes I buy him his favorite candy bar when I'm out running errands. It's the little things that make him happy.

I don't need roses, or diamonds or even chocolates to feel loved by my hubby. But a little patience, encouragement, a listening ear and a man willing to empty the dishwasher when I'm having a crazy week goes a long way for me.

Let's make it our mission to love our husbands every day of the year. In the middle of our messes. In the little ways that matter. 

What can you do to let your husband know how much you love him this week?

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  1. Great post and great reminder!

    I love this... "Love endures all things, even the biggest stresses that life can throw at us. Love is filled with a hope that only comes from knowing Jesus Christ."

    I am your linky neighbor of at Blessing Counters today

    stay encouraged this week! Blessings to you!

  2. I don't know what it is but so often I click on your link not realizing it's you but always glad I did. THANKS for great words...and I agree love is tough work, but so worth the blood, sweat and tears sometimes. THanks, Nicki!

  3. My husband makes me a tea every night and once or twice a month he comes home with roses - just because. This has been hard for me to learn, but I give my husband his space without complaining about it when he needs to just go out by himself for a little while. About once a week he goes to a coffee shop to just relax for about an hour. I finally getting it that he needs some down time without little children running all over him. He does the same for me. Staying with the children so I can go out.

  4. I think sometimes it's just holding onto the hope that only comes from Jesus that gets us through the craziness Denise! Blessings to you!

  5. You are sweet Sheila! It really is tough work, isn't it? But it is so rewarding. Totally with all the effort to love our men the best we can. And thank heavens for grace, lots and lots of grace! Blessings!

  6. That is so sweet Jennifer. I love that your hubs loves to do those sweet things for you! It is hard sometimes to understand balance and the need to just clear your head after a hard day or week. I get that! But I am so glad that you are both able to give each other that room to breathe that you both need to stay supportive and loving to one another. Yay for caring spouses! :)

  7. This is so good, and great reasons on why we should love our spouses all year! I know it gets so hard sometimes to be deliberate in our love, when our lives are so crazy busy. We really do need God's help in it all. I think that you and I had similar thoughts this week after Valentine's day, because I just wrote a similar post, with some practical ideas about how to love your husband. I would love for you to hop over and check it out, if you are interested. Here is the link: http://rahabtoriches.com/rekindle-love-remembering/

    I'm so glad I found your post at the Weekend Brew. Have a blessed weekend!

  8. Beautiful Nicki! I am blessed that you shared this at The Weekend Brew.

  9. Thanks Mary! Blessings to you :)

  10. I very much appreciate this post and the words you've graciously shared by linking up with Grace & Truth. Truth be told, we don't celebrate Valentine's day so no cards or flowers or chocolates were to be had in this house. Instead it was service - washing the dishes for me, taking care of the kids while I grabbed coffee with a friend, making my favorite breakfast and coffee. And he does it every single day. I'm so unworthy of such a servant leader for a husband, but I am so very blessed by him. Thanks again for sharing!


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