To Love Honor & Sneeze Together

I just celebrated more than a decade of marriage to a really incredible man!

Truth be told, they haven't all been wonderful years, many have been difficult and long for both of us. But we got through them together. Some years with heartache and tears, other years with joy and smiles.

marriage is hard work, so work hard for your marriage!


There were days, years maybe, for both of us, where it probably seemed like it would never get better. We resented each other at some point, I'm sure, for our lack of respect and love to each other. We were so busy with our own hurt hearts that we couldn't see through to the other person's pain and frustration. There were years for both of us where it was all about 'me me me.' Those, by the way, were the difficult years. That 'me, me, me' mentality didn't work when we were 2-year-olds; it certainly doesn't work any better as adults, does it?

There are three of us in our marriage now. God. Me. Hubby.

We both come from broken homes so we didn't have the best role models. But the one thing that has been at the center of our marriage is our commitment to God to be in this marriage for life. For better or for worse. For richer or poorer. Till death. Who knew that would involve so much work!

Marriage is hard work. So work hard for your marriage!

We are all a bunch of less than perfect humans who one day decide to get hitched to another not so perfect sinning human. It sounds like a recipe for disaster, doesn't it? But thank God (literally) that He's given us a road map of how to love each other through the Bible.

To Love, Honor & Sneeze Together!
For the past week or so my hubby and I have both been battling colds. We've shared over a dozen Kleenex boxes. We've endured each other's snotty noses, sneezes, fevers, coughs and sleepless nights. We've prayed for each other, we've laughed, I've even cried (my head has hurt so much).

After so many years doing life together, there isn't another human being on the planet that I'd rather share my snot-filled moments with than my husband!

This truly incredible man is a precious gift from the Lord that I hold dear to my heart each and every day. He is my best friend. He has been with me thru death, joy, sorrow, heartache, plenty of tears, car accidents, silly moments, crazy moments, sleepless nights, infertility, cancer and other health issues, bad cooking fiascos, female temper tantrums, family drama and pain. I am tearfully overjoyed at how lucky I am to have him. And how blessed I am to know him.

It is such a privilege to be alongside him in this life. I get a front row seat to watch how God is growing him into such an incredible leader in our home, our church and our community. His passion for the Lord is contagious. His love for others overwhelming. I am truly blessed to know this man. And even more blessed that he choose me to be his wife.

I am not perfect. I never will be. I've stopped trying to strive for something that's impossible. I've also recognized that he's not perfect and our marriage is never going to be perfect either.

We have been able to come together, two beautifully imperfect people, to love one another despite all our imperfections. We commit each day to love each other the best we can and to try our best to serve our Lord through our marriage. And I guess, that's all any of us can really do, isn't it? Just keep trying. And loving each other the best we can, snotty noses and all.

Please take some time today to let your hubby know how much you love him. We get so busy and mad and crazy and tired sometimes, that we forget. So don't forget today, okay?

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27 comments:

  1. Love these words of honor toward your marriage, Nicki! Especially about having a front row seat and getting to watch what God is doing with that man He's given you. Simple golden.


    Get well soon ... please! Both of ya ...


    Hugs from afar!

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  2. "After 11 years of marriage there isn't another human being on the planet that I'd rather share my snot-filled moments with than my husband. " I'm at 15 but I couldn't agree more! Real love is still loving when our sinus' explode!

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  3. Awww thanks Linda. for the well wishes and kind words. My hubby is a keeper for sure. I feel super blessed! :)

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  4. Yes! In sinusy moments and cranky days, he always brings joy to my life. Congrats on 15 years!

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  5. Nicki our spirits soar together today sweet sister as I'm talking about married life today too. My husband and I have been friends for 22 years and I can concur that I'm grateful to share my snot filled moments with him. And he's such a super guy he has wiped my nose with his undershirt (often from my tears) on many of occassions.

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  6. Nicki, I love the honesty of your post on marriage. It is true...marriage is hard work, but it is worth working hard for a better marriage. Mine has not been anywhere near perfect, but every day is better. I truly love my husband more now than I did when we married 20 years ago. Stopping in from #RaRalinkup!

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  7. Marriage is hard work, so work hard for your marriage. I love that! And it's so true, isn't it? It's so worth it to put in the time and effort. Thank you for reminding me that God honors our relationship when we keep him at the center. Blessings! #raralinkup

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  8. So sweet! And so many good points. Blessings.

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  9. It is such a privilege to be alongside him in this life. I get a front row seat to watch how God is growing him into such an incredible leader in our home, our church and our community. His passion for the Lord is contagious. His love for others overwhelming. I am truly blessed to know this man. And even more blessed that he choose me to be his wife.

    AMEN! Can i ditto this for my precious husband of 35+ years???

    Beautiful Nicki

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  10. My favorite sentence here, " There are three of us in our marriage now. God. Me. Hubby." This is a stroke of genius when we get this equation right, because we take the 'Me' against 'Thee' attitude and throw it out of the window. It isn't always easy, but you are right it is a choice. We will be celebrating 22 years this August, with 3 kiddos in between and many of the same dramas you have weathered. It is amazing to me that he still wants to be in the mix my unique and overly emotional self, but he still smiles when he sees me and my heart does a flip-flop when that happens. God is good in this equation, because He is the glue.


    Did you speak at the conference yet? Praying for you as you share.
    Blessings,
    Dawn

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  11. Congrats on 22 wonderful years together! So happy that God gave you someone to wipe away your tears and provide you with love and comfort! :)

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  12. 20 years Leah, awesome! It is hard work, isn't it. But we get so much more out of it than we put in. Thank heavens we don't have to be perfect, just give our spouses our best and let God take care of the rest. Blessings!

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  13. With Him as our center, we can stand strong in our marriage and life! Blessings Kristine :)

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  14. Thanks Susan. Yeah my hubby is definitely a keeper. I am glad God gave you a keeper as well. Praying you have many more beautiful years with your hubby. Congrats on 35+ years, that is awesome! :)

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  15. I am speaking this weekend Dawn! Thank you for praying :) I love that you have weathered similar storms and are happy and able to praise Him through it all. You are right, it isn't easy. But it's possible, Our God is so good and mighty, isn't He? Blessings to you :)

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  16. Yes, Nicki, that is what we can do - come together and keep trying. Because we will never fill all the needs that our spouse has - only Jesus can. Thank you for encouraging my soul in marriage. I needed these words and I thank you deeply for them. Keep going dear friend. Thank you for joining the #RaRalinkup with Purposeful Faith; you are a delight to know.

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  17. What a lovely post and how heart warming to see a woman honour her husband, and for taking 1/2 the blame for the bad times. Thanks for sharing at Good Morning Mondays. Blessings

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  18. Yay, praise the Lord for letting Him work through you and your marriage. That is excellent! Congrats on 10 years of marriage! Now...your name isn't really Suzie Homemaker is it? LOL Blessings xoxo

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  19. Yes, it is a journey indeed Kelly. And having ladies that support and encourage each other in our faith certainly helps us get through it too. Blessings to you! So happy the Lord has placed another cheerleader of faith in my path. Go #raralinkup! :)

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  20. Oh...I don't know if it's half the blame Terri. I'd say there are days I'm 100% to blame. But by the grace of God, He loves us anyway and we get through it, don't we? :) Blessings to you!

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  21. Love this post! After 42 years of marriage, it was a great reminder that we need to thank our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ every day for our husbands, and let our husbands know how much we appreciate them. Many blessings to you both.

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  22. 42 years of marriage, that is AWESOME Beth. Blessings to you!

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  23. Love this reply Nicki! I tell Holt he's a keeper...

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  24. Yes you are very right, there are definitely days when I am 100% to blame for our disagreements, but it is the moving on in God that is important. Have a great day. Blessings

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  25. I needed this gentle reminder today. It IS hard work. Twelve years of marriage here, and it is constant hard work. And I'm still learning how to live with this person some days! Thank you for this today!

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